Opinions Differ After A Twitter User Said If His Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child And Not My Wife.''

He is right. I still believe in talking things through before execution. For your information this tweet is not promoting equality. Because someone will now start challenging her husband and scatter the peace they have enjoyed for years 😂😂😂😂😂. While you’re learning things online, remember your husband is the lord over you and respecting him doesn’t make you weak or foolish rather it means you have sense in abundance. Respect is just like food to men. How ever men should learn to discuss things with their wife before taking actions but don’t leave her to making the decision in critical moments they are not good at it 😂😂😂😂😂😂. God bless you all. Merry Christmas 🎄🎁 to you all. Remember to help someone or feed some people this festive season ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

AJ Morgan should be a motivational speaker. He is right in what he was saying. However, some misogynist is not seeing his point . He is a very calm dude as well!.

Women want equal power to make decisions but not equal responsibilities in a marriage, if I'm shouldering all the responsibilities and paying all the bills, you best do what I say. Of course my wife's opinions will matter but I still take the final decision. If a woman wants an equal partnership, she has to take equal responsibilities. Forget what all these Twitter simps are saying without the correct context to back it up.

It is grossly unsettling that any sane individual will contest with the things in this post. A man says you shouldn't expect your wife to do everything you say, in other terms, "agree with all your points"and some men are convulsing in anger. Who raised these people? Even your children will have different opinions from you and will sometimes even be right.

And some buffalos are insisting that that's what leadership is about? Have y'all heard how the CEOs of fortune 500 companies lead? Have you read anything about Jeff, Elon, Mark and Sergey Brin's leadership techniques that help them to bring out the best from their teams and maximise their formation, altho the buck ends often on their table? How are sane humans trying hard to believe it is okay to control another adult? Someone who hasn't even led himself, but believes another person simply by virtue of marriage is compelled to heed to everything He says.

Even God our creator, as Almighty as He is, allowed us the will to choose, and simply prods us by His consistent leadership and love to seek to follow Him, while a human being somewhere thinks God will give husbands a power of control that God himself doesn't exercise over humans? If this post triggers you, it's because you're dysfunctional. The man didn't even encourage disrespect in anyway.

He highlighted a situation where each human can function optimally on a union that ought to be driven by affection and responsibility, something any healthy adult should find appealing. So if you're somewhere bleating and feeling like using the restroom because of this, you should get the services of a shrink because you're not right somewhere. Healthy females don't even want to lead their men.

Healthy females love the covering of genuine male leadership but one where she knows she is heard, respected and valued. And healthy females naturally respond to love by submitting. God demanded submission from us to His Will because He first loved us and generously, repeatedly showed that love by the sacrifices He did to redeem us to himself. So his demand for submission was predicated on how he had loved us by His acts.

Even upon Adam's sin, God gave man opportunity to defend himself. Repeatedly on scripture, we see God constantly reasoning with men and treating Man which he created with dignity despite the fact that man is mere dust. To show Abraham that he had come into friendship with God, He allowed him to intercede for Sodom and Gomorrah. He allowed Moses to change His mind about the children of Israel repeatedly.

 But somewhere, for marriage that benefits you both equally, you want to be Lord by rule. Ephesians said "love her as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her." Christ loved and is still loving us patiently even when we err. And then asked women to "Submit as if to God". The standards on the both ends are very high. Humans in their very nature cannot fulfil this standards on their own. They need help. But it is unfair to not be ready to do yours and expect the other party to do theirs 💯. Loving by Gods standards goes beyond putting food on the table. Many women these days are equal or even sole breadwinners anyway. A man is the progenitor and indeed head of a home, so he should also lead by showing in the level of love, patience and forgiveness he exhibits. If you're not ready to love at that level don't seek who will submit to you at that level. You don't deserve respect anymore than she deserves love. You both are either going the full yard or giving discretionally at the level you consider convenient per time.

Divorce don dey hungry some people 😂😂😂 taking advice on social media to apply it in an unknown situation in ur house dangerous, just understand ur partner character and behaviours and balance it within yours. E no pass like this.

Men, your wife is not your partner, and she is your wife. You have authority over her. Don't listen to men like this, like the one that said women should only submit if the man is rich. Women rule these men. They see women as gods, so they can't act masculine toward their wives. These men say, " na my wife dey control house, if I disagree with my wife, she will lock me out, she will not cook for me.

Men, read masculine books to know your worth as a man. Go to pdfdrive.com and get these books. Too many weak men. You see how many of them post on social media to get validation, especially women.

Men, be men. Women can't tell men how to be masculine, so don't listen to them. They only describe men and masculinity regarding what men can do for them. It's why you hear a real man spends on his girlfriend. A real man will die for his woman, don't fall for women's lies. They are manipulative, and they are chaotic, and deceitful.

It's why GOD made them be under a man. For a woman was made from man, made for man, named by the man, created after the man, provided for by the man, and will be under the man's control. She will leave her father's house for the man's house, will leave her father's name for the man's name. she will carry the man's seed for nine months with sleepless nights, body pains, body aches, and swollen faces. She will leave her beauty because you put your penis into her pregnancy for less than 3 minutes. She will carry it with got nine months. I can imagine the pain women will feel reading this.

Men, be men. Be ruthless with your masculinity, be unapologetic about it.

This is absolutely necessary 😌. The unfortunate reality is that some men thinks that being "the head of the family" title is the greatest achievement or greater part of a marriage. I personally don't want a submissive wife. I mean we're not in a BDSM relationship. Having a partner that challenges you to be a better version of yourself is what makes a healthy relationship and ultimately a healthy marriage. Like I always said, if we don't challenge each other or add values to each others lives, then we are simply wasting each other times. 🙌❤️

Funny how 90% of the men that will disagree with this post are Igbo men ofcus they are mostly the type who want to marry naïve band gullible women and enslave them more reason why their women are showing them pepper outside a society that supports their controlling acts they pay huge bride price and ofcus the woman becomes one of their properties to be controlled abused and maltreated by both them and their families…. Living in Igbo dominated environment exposed me to more terrible cases of domestic violence including beating partners to death coming from a the north where polygamy is rampant sef I never saw the level of fights and abuse I saw living few years amongst this control freak men…. Only met a very few good ones ….God created a woman a Help mate to a man not a slave ..your wife is not your property she is part of you .. maltreating her shows how much you love yourself cause the two of you became one the moment you came together as husband and wife!!

The few men who responded to this post in their ignorance highlighted the message's point. If you know what it means, a leader is not there to control, whether in business, partnership, or marriage; the best leaders know how best to harness the resources available to them for the best outcomes. Suppose you are unwilling to give a listening ear to your spouse in the name of I am the man, and I lead my family. In that case, you will have some occasions where you are not making the best decisions because you didn't tap into the collective intelligence you had available. 

Nigerian men keep forcing this narrative that has not served generations. If your great-grandmothers could seat you down and educate you, you will find that they had better ideas on occasions in their marriage but just kept quiet and did as told because there wasn't an atmosphere of collaboration. Even in parenting, most of us here, if we are, to be honest, will admit we were not the same when our parents were not around us, but we will say yes sir and yes ma just because that is what the culture is all about then do what we want to do when by ourselves.

It's healthy to consider all options available before proceeding with the best one, even if it is not yours. That is what makes a great leader.

A wife is not necessarily required to do everything her husband tells her to do, she is not a slave but a partner, but she must respect his decision or instructions nonetheless. There must be a leader in every setting which others must follow whether they have different opinions or not. Having a different opinion from your man does not mean you should challenge him unless you are trying to tell him you are also a man and there are two captains in a ship. Wisdom is profitable!

The best-proven counselor for marriage still remains the word of God (Bible). Once both partners understand God's instructions for marriage and follow it up in obedience, I tell you your marriage will succeed. I'm not saying there won't be storms, but your marriage will survive through it all. Leave all these relationship counselors, social media advisers, and relationship expert.

Listen to them at your own risk. I've seen lots of couples who follow what they see on social media ,or what one relationship counselor talk, and applied it to their marriage and today their marriage is no more. I'm not saying all they say is bad or totally wrong. But what works in their marriage may not work in yours. Most counsels they give are based on their own individual marital experience.

Forgetting that every marriage is unique with their own unique challenges as well. And truth is that, no be them design marriage ,it's not their idea, marriage is God's idea. If you want to succeed in marriage, you must follow and apply the principles of the one who designed marriage. Check it out nau, with all the relationship counselors ,and advisers we have ,the rate of divorce and separation is increasing by the day. That's because people stopped listening to the one who own marriage ,and stopped applying His principles and standards for marriage. God bless you all.

Even the truth of the matter is in a home wife's opinion and decision in most cases matters a lot and works more .you can only build around it with your man giving thinking and ability. As man do the work and let most decisions be taken by the women that's why you need a good thinking woman not party and wig and weavon woman. In early days of my parents marriage, my dad ignored most of my mums meaningful suggestions and he payed dearly for it and since then he barely decide on his own until we are of age to even have our own quota. Any progress marriage and family must be flexible.

It’s crazy to me that anyone who has ever been successfully married would disagree with this simple statement. God gave mankind a free will. “Husband’s, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her.” - Where is the confusion?

This man is a mumu man, I wish to meet him and insult him myself face to face. My wife will tell me always to teach her like I do to our kids that her mom didn't rise her properly she never had a father. So such woman is who should have opinion right? Mad man

I don't know why people have issues with the tweet. It is only a control freak that would have problem with the tweet. Even if you feel you're the wisest amongst men, the wisdom in you should tell you that no man is a reservoir of knowledge... One can do well, but two can do better. Men should learn and have the right ideas towards marriage else, you'll head for the rocks even before you start.

Marriage counselors have a poor relationship. Why? They will tell you everything about common sense in a relationship. But most of them don't even have a partner. The association is a commitment between one mugu and their lover. It takes 2 to tango, but one holds the line more potent than the other. One has to be the mugu for the other. Male or female, it doesn't matter. 2 innovative heads will always argue and fight, especially when they try to use their intelligence.

It's all about understanding, patience, and sacrifice. Don't marry a woman that believes your money is our money and her money is her money. Trust me, and it's not going to be all rosy. She will insult you when you can't pay the bills because it annoys her when she spends her money. Don't marry a man that doesn't have respect for you. Your value will keep reducing, especially if he's giving you money. You become a slave over time. Finally, train your children and teach them how to be better people so they won't have a toxic family.

This man na mumu . Look! You have full authority over your wife. The man is the head of the wife, just like Christ is the church. Only SIMPS and stupid men will listen to this man. You have every right to gently tell her not to go to that party with her friends. You have the right to say to her what and what not to do subtly because you are HER head. Period. Give a woman a step, and she'll take seven steps. Give her the opportunity and complete control. She'll open office space Untop your head and be signing cheques. Na people like this man wey never Sabi this gender dey talk like SIMPS. Learn to put her where she belongs in the marriage simply.

If na woman talks this thing now, everyone will start shouting feminist upandan, which is a wrong misconception. Everything is not about feminism. Having your own opinion or disagreeing with your husband on some issues doesn't make you a bad wife or non-submissive. A husband is the head of the family, no doubt. Still, the wife is also human, so there is a definite probability of different opinions on certain things, and is certainly no grounds for divorce. How you handle the disagreement is where maturity comes in. Marriage is not about slaying on the wedding day. The real deal is after the wedding. Women, most especially, should not be consumed by the glamour and attention that comes with weddings. You didn't do anything special. You just got married! Calm down and ensure you are mature enough to handle a home before marriage. Finish!

One thing I know for a fact is there's no manual for marriage. Marriage is like a movie set with different actors, different roles with a script, and with a director. I have made the Almighty God the scriptwriter and the director of my marriage. Therefore my wife and I, including our kids, are just actors. One thing I told my wife that is working for us was for her not ever to compare me with her great father, but I promised to give her and our children my best, God's willing. And I'll never see her be precise as my wonderful mother. MARRIAGE IS DEEP, BUT IT'S A BEAUTIFUL THING! May God help us all.

Some of our men are damaged but you can’t even blame them cos they got it from their father, they saw their mother go through all sorts of suff**ing and endurance they grew up thinking if my mother could endure it and say my wife should be able to do so too