Motherhood Is Lonely. Always Think Of Yourself As A Single Mom - Bashir El-Rufai's Wife Advises Followers Who Ask Why Men Are Skipping Their Duties.

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Motherhood Is Lonely. Always Think Of Yourself As A Single Mom - Bashir El-Rufai's Wife Advises Followers Who Ask Why Men Are Skipping Their Duties.

Bashir El-Rufai's wife, Halima Nwakaego, said motherhood is lonely. 

The mother of twin boys stated this on Monday, December 19, during a question and answer session with her followers on Instagram.

Responding to a question on why some men skip their duties as husbands, she advised the follower to think of herself as a single mother. 

"Always think of yourself as a single mother, that way, you expect nothing from anyone and never get disappointed," she said.

"You do your part, and that's the most important thing. Stop looking at what others aren't doing for your children. Ask for help instead of assuming people will offer." she added.

Motherhood Is Lonely. Always Think Of Yourself As A Single Mom - Bashir El-Rufai's Wife Advises Followers Who Ask Why Men Are Skipping Their Duties.

Motherhood Is Lonely. Always Think Of Yourself As A Single Mom - Bashir El-Rufai's Wife Advises Followers Who Ask Why Men Are Skipping Their Duties.

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MarriageLast activity one month ago

Then why are you calling yourselves family?! What again is baby mama if not this? Black women are the source of their headaches. Man or woman, nobody is allowed not to be involved in the raising and nurturing of a child. You BOTH born am together.

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Ana akoghere

El Rufai's son is showing her shege, but she dares not complain!

The stupid son of El rufai that hate to see an Igbo man rule or rise have an Igbo woman as a wife ?. Do you see them ???

Not too sure, but is Bashir El Rufai the son of El Rufai? Holy crap, I do hope not.

Anonymous

one month ago

MarriageLast activity one month ago

Men don suffer. We are blamed for all woman's troubles. It's well with us.

Some women are bored and jobless. All they know how to do is complain about men and infect other women to join them. If men don't go to work and come back home with money, it's another problem.

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Anonymous

one month ago

BECAUSE SHE SPOKE OUT ON WHAT HAS BEEN KILLING YOU INSIDE, SHE'S NOW SUPPORTED, EVEN HAVING EL RUFFAI TO HER NAME. HYPOCRITES

MarriageLast activity one month ago

Not true. Her husband is a deadbeat Dad, and it doesn't help that she's depressed and feeling alone. The guy couldn't be bothered. He's gotten his babies and has left the woman to worry. Loading! She definitely staged the questions as an opportunity to quietly voice out

This doesn't speak well of the husband.

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Anonymous

one month ago

This one is ready for divorce already!! But again, I wonder why women will always want marriage so badly, and once they get it, they start spewing trash or acting silly.

She wants to speak out but shes scared of the Rufai family. Shes sad and lonely

Smart! I thought as much that she definitely staged the questions

Anonymous

one month ago

MarriageLast activity one month ago

Most Nigerian men suck at co-parenting. They are like sea turtles, laid their eggs and then let nature take of them if not eaten by other animals. I like Sweden, where fathers are allowed to stay at home with their new babies, with 80%of their salary being paid by the state. I was home with my kids all the time while my wife worked her way up to dissentisize all hormones, stress, and emotions from having a baby. I am grateful because it makes me bond, creates a better relationship with them, and makes life easy for my partner.

Anonymous

one month ago

MarriageLast activity one month ago

Yes, Motherhood is lonely. It can also be a time for good self-care and finding your inner self. Remember to keep in touch with your friends. Also, get live-in help. Never overwork your body. Go out all by yourself for a short hour. Beauty treatment, exercise good food and music. It's a forever journey. It gets easier with time. Keep your home peaceful.

Anonymous

one month ago

MarriageLast activity one month ago

What poll did you conduct to know men are skipping their responsibilities? Anyways, you are entitled to your opinion.

Taa sharaaap there!!. If you married a good man, you would have some help, but you married that idiot that is always online bragging and bullying instead of helping his wife at home. Deal with it!!!

MarriageLast activity one month ago

One of the developments of feminism and general women's revolt is their loss. In the past, Motherhood used to be fun for the new mother surrounded by people from both families: her mother, mother-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, cousins, aunties, etc. she doesn't have to lift a pin. All she does is eat, sleep, feed the baby, and all over again. Pray our ladies to reform themselves back to who they are: BEAUTIFUL AFRICAN WOMEN!

MarriageLast activity one month ago

That is a very wise answer. That's why women are advised to be hardworking and make money. No one says only men can be rich. However, she should be submissive.

She is so naturally beautiful… gorgeous

Anonymous

one month ago

MarriageLast activity one month ago

She is correct. I don't even ask my hubby for help, cos he will refuse. Over time, I don't ask at all so as not to be disappointed if he refuses.

That's so true.

MarriageLast activity one month ago

So mothers/ wives should not hold fathers/ husbands accountable? How can you be a married woman with a child and not expect anything from the father of your child? I am still waiting for her response. The person asked about husbands, and she was talking about strangers.

MarriageLast activity one month ago

She is correct; Northern Muslim men emotionally detach from their wives once they give birth. It's so prevalent 😭😭

Anonymous

one month ago

MarriageLast activity one month ago

so na makeup, they patch this chick

MarriageLast activity one month ago

She is spot on with her comments

MarriageLast activity one month ago

Unfortunately, you have a jihadist as a husband. He's probably somewhere in the Maghreb, learning to be a radical Islamist!

She sounds Alone, not lonely.

MarriageLast activity one month ago

yes, because she married an Islamic dwarf that goes around chasing new girls while turning you into a baby machine.

MarriageLast activity one month ago

I thought she was a Muslim or married to a Muslim. Why leave your head uncovered? Or is there hypocrisy in all these?

MarriageLast activity one month ago

When you marry a son of a gun, Motherhood becomes lonely.

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