It May Be Because I'm An Introvert Or I Have Lost Connection With Most Of My Friends. I'm An Average 24-year-old, But People Tell Me I Don't Act Maturely And Behave Like A Teenager.

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It may be because I'm an introvert or I have lost connection with most of my secondary school friends. I'm average, but people tell me I don't act maturely. Something happened today where I work. I have a colleague who is 17 years old, and He has a considerable stature. You will think he is around 22. Somehow I became friends with this guy, but not until today. We had a discussion that made him ask for my age, and I said 24. He was surprised and said wow. I wondered if I looked that young, and he said not really "but how I behave." He pains me, but I comot eye. I also noticed I crush on secondary school girls sometimes. I will feel as if we are age mates. I even feel like I'm age mates with the Lil boys in ss3. And this is due to the fact I couldn't secure admission since I finished secondary school in 2016. I just got university admission this year, but I've lost interest because most of my mates are done with school. And I still thought to myself today that if I go to school now, I will start mingling with underage and my mind will be growing at the same pace as theirs. I'm not happy at all. I need your advice, please. Pardon my grammatical errors.

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PeopleLast activity 16 days ago

Change your friends and go ghost mode. You are the product of the five people you talk to the most. It is a good thing that you know you have a problem. Start challenging everything you think about. You have the internet. Use it—the time you use to do Facebook, use and watch youtube videos. Follow David Goggins, Andrew Tate, and Iman Gandzhi. Change the music you listen to and the movies you watch. 


See this movie list: 

Best Movies to Watch: 100 Must See Movies | The Art of Manliness


Go and watch the movie fight club to the end - it will change you, trust me. Here is a short clip from the film on the way to think about life :



Your problem of mingling with underage is not a problem. Younger people have more ideas about certain things than older people. A guy of 17 years might know about monetizing twitch streaming. Your real problem is the need for more money and a clear pathway on how to get the money. If you finish school, how do you think you will make money with unemployment rampant all over the country? If you can lock in on how to make money and be in great physical shape and focus on that till you have an effective plan to work with, all this your issues will disappear. Being in a fantastic physical body also boosts your ability to think. 


Exercise can boost your memory and thinking skills - Harvard Health


Go to the gym or pick up bodyweight training at home. You can start with the program convict conditioning - it is a pdf you can get for free from libgen. If you cannot learn to be happy alone, you will never be satisfied.

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16 days ago

PeopleLast activity 16 days ago

U have already placed a barrier against yourself which is very dangerous.


When I gained admission to study at the University, I can say for sure that I met people my uncle's age and my mum's age, and they all had the confidence of themselves and were bright as you.


Even after University, I met three of my seniors who are currently on the same grade level as me in the office today. Funny enough, one graduated when I was in 100level. The two others were just three years ahead of me, and today, we earn the same salary, talk and even chat as if we are mates.


This life no be first to finish oh.


Brace up, man, and look forward to becoming the natural man. One of my roommates, called Emeka (surname withheld), was already 42 when we were in school, yet, he never killed himself because he sponsored himself till he graduated.


Your future is bright only if you can stop doubting yourself and what the future holds for you.

PeopleLast activity 16 days ago

I will recommend you listen to a lot of music from Fela Kuti. Fela was the master of life and in the end, he said his entire life was a collection of events and experiences and he does not regret any of it. Look forward to new experiences and how you can contribute to how it happens before they happen. Forget the past and control your destiny.

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Respect!

PeopleLast activity 16 days ago

Are you trying to be serious with your 100level admission at 24? That is important. In four or six years, depending on the course of study, you’d be a proud graduate.


Courses like Nursing rocks, and you’d be a graduate in three years already. Life is not race competition. There is no award, but death awaits us all.


At 24, some of your mates are graduates already done serving; At 24, some of you are in the grave.


I know one of my secondary school teachers who went back to school to study law undergraduate in his late thirties; while still retaining his teaching job at my secondary school. Check out Kanayo O Kanayo. He recently completed a Law degree as an older man in his late Fifties. Check out Davido’s uncle Senator Adeleke recently completed a bachelor's degree as an older adult.


It May Be Because I'm An Introvert Or I Have Lost Connection With Most Of My Friends. I'm An Average 24-year-old, But People Tell Me I Don't Act Maturely And Behave Like A Teenager.

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16 days ago

PeopleLast activity 16 days ago

You will meet people younger than you at University. You'll also meet many people way older than you. Make sure you seize this opportunity now that you're still young.


You have identified your problem, which is 50% of the solution. The second is the real solution. How will a mature man do things? Where do mature guys hang out, and How do they dress? Etc these questions came into our consciousness at one point or the other while growing up, though, for some of us, it came earlier, but you still have lots of time. Start with cutting out the excess play with children, i.e., those secondary school boys and girls you like hanging out with, stop dressing like them, and try getting laid regularly.

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16 days ago

PeopleLast activity 16 days ago

While mine has been the reverse, people always think I am older. Stop talking too much, bro. It's not good and you might end up saying stupid things. Read more, and make friends that are older and have sense. Stop all those unnecessary jokes. Stop being friends with teenagers. Your target should be those older. But those older will associate with you if they see you have sense, so read and read.


Lol. I had an admission immediately after writing WAEC in 2017, but for some reason, I dropped out.

Now I'm going to write JAMB next year.

Life no is race. Focus on yourself. 

PeopleLast activity 16 days ago

Your clears don dey clear small small. This life na journey and you are beginning to realize it. So enjoy it and keep on exploring how to make it a better adventure. Someone already quoted Fela Kuti who figured it was all a journey at the end. King Solomon called it a vanity journey. Live free and be yourself. Enjoy it! Quote from Maya Angelou


It May Be Because I'm An Introvert Or I Have Lost Connection With Most Of My Friends. I'm An Average 24-year-old, But People Tell Me I Don't Act Maturely And Behave Like A Teenager.

PeopleLast activity 16 days ago

You may be right about one thing, which is exposure. Suppose you hardly get involved in a conversation. In that case, it Stunts your level of maturity and mental development in general because, with communication, you get the feedback necessary for mental growth and general development or maturation. So it is expected that your maturity process will be slow. Tho some introverted people are good observers, in your case, it is your area of focus and choice of interest which has stranded you.

PeopleLast activity 16 days ago

Life is a journey, not a race. Do you see how cars, buses, bikes, and pedestrians use the same road but end up at different destinations? Well, that's life. Also, I've got to question your motivation and seriousness to getting educated because getting admission into uni at 24 is no biggie. Who cares if your classmates are older or younger than you are? Fix your mindset. All the best

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Said my mind already good advice. Op take note!

PeopleLast activity 16 days ago

It would help if you ate a lot of dark chocolate and read some books. It enables brain function.


Thank me later.

PeopleLast activity 16 days ago

You have an identity crisis. It would be best if you discovered who you are.

I was in this shoe until I started reading books on self-development.

And please don't mention introverts because that behavior has nothing to do with us. We talk less, listen more and act.


But if na because you dey watch cartoon, omo! That's not a problem cus as I dey like this, I still dey watch it

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