If It's Not Marriage Or Work-related, I Don't Understand Why People Would Move Out Of Their Parent's House To Live Alone

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If it's not marriage or work-related, I don't understand why people would move out of their parent's house to live alone - Nigerian lawyer.


A Nigerian lawyer has questioned young adults eager to move out of their parents' houses to start living alone.


In a Twitter thread, the learned fellow named Foundational Nupe lawyer on Twitter stated that he needs to understand why some young people move out of their family house except for marriage or work.


He opined that some move out of their parent's homes to have space to carry out their 'irresponsible activities,' and this has elicited mixed reactions.


While some supported his line of thought, others said it is essential that young adult moves out of their parent's house so they can grow independently.


Read his tweets below.


If It's Not Marriage Or Work-related, I Don't Understand Why People Would Move Out Of Their Parent's House To Live Alone

If It's Not Marriage Or Work-related, I Don't Understand Why People Would Move Out Of Their Parent's House To Live Alone

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Anonymous

29 days ago

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I am a lady, age 28. I moved out of my parent's house to be able to meet men and have sex at will, and now I am getting old. No husband, even the men, doesn't want me again, including my parents. The shame is too much on me, O, had I known 🙃.

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Sorry Sorry O. Take it God has a plan for everyone

Anonymous

29 days ago

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I want to move out like my siblings did, just that I don't have the means yet. My mum is the reason. Sometimes, I can't help but wonder if other mums are like her. She won't encourage you; she would go out and tell those who want to assist us wrong and false things, so these people will capitalize on her stories and see us negatively. When we don't succeed at any point, she will act concerned at the moment but can't wait to laugh and make fun of our failure. She makes more money, so she buys food and supplies for herself. If we must eat, it will have to be on her terms.


She keeps disgracing me in the whole house(her father's building) on how my mates are building homes for their parents, married, or have very high-paying jobs. When I'm ill, she doesn't care. She will list medicines I could take, and even if she has any, she won't share, so forget about her getting you any with her money, except, of course, you are one of my siblings who happens to be her favorite. This is a woman I love and make heavy sacrifices for. Should I talk about how she constantly rains curses? Don't think I'm a terrible child to deserve this treatment from her.


On the contrary, I'm a daughter many mums appreciate outside. They tell me how lucky my mum is to have me. I am not wayward; I'm very hard-working and God-fearing. I learned a lot by myself as my mum, even in her 60s, does not know how to cook and do house chores, but we put up with her and assisted her. Your mates are this and that, and I keep telling her if only you knew what my mates indulge in; one day, I showed her the nude pictures and videos on the Internet of some of my supposed mates she mentioned, and what they do yet she does not appreciate me. People dislike you if they come to find out she is my mum. The reasons I would want to move out are endless. Meanwhile, I am writing on a very light note and need to give exact details.

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Anonymous

29 days ago

I stayed in my father's house for one month before my marriage, not because I couldn't afford a place of my own but because it was just a waste of money. My babe (now wife) used to visit me there, and everything was normal. Just stick to what works with your philosophy.

Anonymous

29 days ago

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It's good to have some period of independence before you marry. Not necessarily for "waywardness," as postulated by this guy, but to be able to self-sustain. Be sure you can take care of yourself before attempting to care for someone's son/daughter. If you have a good job and are still comfortable living with your parents, with no desire to move out, your parents need to raise you better. If I were them, I'd throw you out! Unless your parents depend on you for care, move out!!! It doesn't surprise me you don't love or respect them. It just means you're growing up. And if you insist it's for "waywardness," no problem. Leave us and our wayward ways, biko—Mr mommy's boy.

Anonymous

29 days ago

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I won't even go near marriage with a man who still lives at home unless your parents are dependent on you for care. Immaturity is your middle name.

Anonymous

29 days ago

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Some people can't cope with parents, siblings, and friends and think they can cope with marriage pressure. You better groom your temperance, endurance, or patience by staying with your parents, etc.


That should be the case, but in some situations, especially when the individual is coming of age, there will be this desire to leave your parents and get your place to be more independent, which some parents encourage. However, my father agrees with this writer and will not support me(age 31) in leaving the house except for the exceptions highlighted by this writer.

Anonymous

29 days ago

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Mine was overbearing parents. They were Nagging about everything. Difficult to please, especially when mum and dad have to support her or she will get annoyed with him. I prayed to have a job as soon as I graduated, and God answered my prayers, and I moved out. I still try to relate well with them. I visit them take care of them and still honor them.

Anonymous

29 days ago

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Before my dad passed, he said none of his children must be living under his roof at age 26. At 26, you would be kicked out of his house if you hadn't left. This is not because he hated us. This is so you can at least be responsible. At 26, you should have at least found a bearing on where your life is headed. At 26, you should have graduated from school and must have worked for at least 3 or 4 years. If you are not schooling, at 26, you should have been done learning a business or a trade and must have mastered your craft. Would you bring your girlfriend or boyfriend to where your parents live? Does having a gf or bf mean you are irresponsible? This lawyer is not "lawyering".. Go get another job.

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This is why Southeast Asian nations will always have the upper hand, Most Asian married in their family home bring in their husband or wife into their home, and savings are guaranteed until they can buy their home.

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Same with the Mediterranean culture of South Italy, South Spain, Greece, and even Portugal. Their adults find it very hard to leave the nest, especially the men, even at age 40 et al. Their women are more assertive.

MarriageLast activity 29 days ago

Still living with your parents when you are far above 30 is depressing. Your parents will start asking you questions that affect your ego as a human, and that's when frustration comes in. At a certain age in life, the instinct to be independent kicks in, and when there's no means to satisfy these instincts, you get angry and frustrated. If you are still living with your parents, at least try to be financially stable on your own and never depend on them for anything. Be the one to provide for them.


It's called RESPONSIBILITY.

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Anonymous

29 days ago

Societal pressure is also part of it, especially as a man. If you don't have a place of your own, they will think you are not doing well.

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This is my problem with social media. People try to pass off their personal opinions are rules. I spent the whole time reading rubbish!

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Nope!!! He says he doesn't understand. He is expressing an opinion, so whoever has a superior argument should help him understand.

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Because they want to smoke weed, go out at ungodly hours, bring men home to sleep and vice versa, skip church,etc. This is the privacy they are talking about.

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Some young people really need to do all that you mentioned before they can fully be adults. Only a few realize early that it's all vanity and they quickly change their ways for their sanity.

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I don leave dem since abeg come beat me go back now... nothing comes out in ur comfort zone... today even my parents re not alive I can survive life, today I’m doin well probably if I was wit dem maybe depending on dem..today they are proud of me, unless someone chose to be irresponsible but there a lot out of comfort zone tho it won’t b easy but it is worthy at d end..why, u can survive independently without their money..

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 exactly. Most are scared of taking up responsibility forgetting the parents won't be there forever.

MarriageLast activity 29 days ago

If you stay with your African parent for long , you’ll start paying the rent with your mental health … They themselves moved outta their parent's homes even before they turned adult. Why should I an adult still put up with them

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Independence is part of growth. It's part of life's cycle. There are quite a number of irresponsible people who still live with their parents. Responsibility is a choice and certain situations will challenge you to be more responsible for yourself and even others. Even your parents will respect you more when you move out of their house and start to make certain necessary decisions for yourself 😂😂😂😂.

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Leaving your parents house helps prepare you as an adult, you learn how to sort out bills and take responsibility for your action. There’s an age when you are required to get your own apartment and give your parents space too, because if you continue to stay with them, they will continue to feed you. After NYSC, go rent a place and start your life, don't mind this anumanu yarning gibberish

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It is not their fault because some parents' actions make them leave the house. I don't blame some parents as well because living with your child for more than 20 years. Having a little privacy of your own is not bad.

Anonymous

29 days ago

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I left home at 16 and glad I did… cos if it was when Dad died 3 years later I start planning my ways, I would have been in soup with my siblings… Things actually do happen for reasons unknown and we find out most times in the future and be glad they did happened..

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There is an appropriate time to leave your parent's place. It gives you room to enter into who you are, learn and build your own life according to who you are. It really doesn't happen under their roofs.

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you are talking nonsense. Many people need to live alone to make adult decisions alone before they even marry. I cannot marry a man who is moving right into marriage from his father’s house. I have lived alone for 3 years and it was my father who advised me to go get my place since I can afford it. There’s a lot of mental, emotional, financial, and spiritual growth to do on your own before getting into marriage. Let people do what pleases them, please.

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It's an Instinctual and NATURAL order of life. There comes a time you have to cut off your loin and move on. Animals do it, and birds do it. It's all part of the evolution. Even your parents will start acting funny if you are still at home and dependent on them at a certain age.

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Some people still need to live with their parents longer than when they left. There are still some parental lessons to learn that take years and steady checking to be part of us only parents could do that.

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People should live alone before living with anyone else in marriage. Men, especially, are lazy. You cannot learn to be helpful to your spouse at home, and everything is being done for you. Some people will use this laziness and not leave their father's house. A young man who is reading this, why have you not moved out? Because you don't want to suffer or you are very, very lazy? Get your butt together and move out. You can survive without a house girl, cook your meals, and be independent. No one is coming to save you.

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