"I Never Thought I'd Be 46, Divorced, Single, And Having A Baby On My Own," Former CNN Correspondent Isha Sesay Shares Pregnancy News.

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"I Never Thought I'd Be 46, Divorced, Single, And Having A Baby On My Own," Former CNN Correspondent Isha Sesay Shares Pregnancy News.

Isha Sesay, 46, is pregnant with her first child.

 

The former CNN correspondent announced a moving piece published on TODAY.

 

In an essay posted on the website, the British journalist of Sierra Leonean descent disclosed the events that influenced her decision to have a child on her own.


She wrote: "If you'd told the 16-year-old me that at 46, I'd be divorced, single, and having a baby on my own — by choice! — I'd have shuddered and firmly said, 'no!'

 

"Back then, I had very definite ideas about the future course my personal life would take, and it didn't look like this. I imagined something way more straightforward and, dare I say it, conventional."

 

She explained that after her marriage ended and her mother suffered a stroke, she reflected on her life and decided she would greatly regret not having a child.


"I Never Thought I'd Be 46, Divorced, Single, And Having A Baby On My Own," Former CNN Correspondent Isha Sesay Shares Pregnancy News.



"A brief marriage to a kind man didn't result in children, and then the year I turned 40, my mum had a catastrophic stroke, leaving me no emotional space to contemplate anything other than caring for her," she wrote.

 

"Six years went by, and a few months ago, I found myself in a bad relationship with a man who took about 12 hours to reply to all my texts, among other red flags. In the aftermath of our inevitable breakup, it hit me: Not having a child would be the greatest regret of my life. And with my biological clock ticking down, if I was waiting for the right man to come along before I did it, I might find myself out of time.

 

"So, I decided to take control of my life and settle on the bravest and scariest decision I have ever made: to have a baby on my own.

 

"I had many long conversations with myself and tried to get to grips with questions about what it would mean not to have the support of a partner, both emotionally and financially.


"How would I handle society's questions? What would be a single parent means for my child? I still don't have all the answers, but I decided to leap because I refuse to let fear, social conventions, or judgment hold me back from seeking this joy."


"I Never Thought I'd Be 46, Divorced, Single, And Having A Baby On My Own," Former CNN Correspondent Isha Sesay Shares Pregnancy News.

 

She narrated the arduous medical process she had to go through, including deciding on a sperm donor.

 

She recalled: "My first IVF attempt was unsuccessful, and I cried for days afterward before I could find the strength to start the process again a few months later.

 

"But with each passing day, I grew more fearful and anxious about my chances of being able to carry a child successfully. Those feelings only intensified when my doctor decided to halt my second attempt mid-cycle because my body was responding negatively to the medication.


"With two failed attempts to my name, I approached my third embryo transfer with relatively low expectations. In the two weeks that followed the procedure, my mind raced uncontrollably, and I battled the urge to take an early pregnancy test.

 

"The day before I was scheduled to return to the clinic, I finally caved in and bought a home test because I couldn't bear a repeat of the hours-long wait before the clinic called with the results. The next morning I got up long before the sun was up, anxiously headed to my bathroom, and opened the box. The minutes ticked by, and I cycled through a myriad of emotions. When the word 'pregnant' flashed up on the tiny screen, I screamed and fell to my knees before bursting into tears."


"I Never Thought I'd Be 46, Divorced, Single, And Having A Baby On My Own," Former CNN Correspondent Isha Sesay Shares Pregnancy News.

 

Isha said she is "elated" and "terrified" being pregnant, but she has no regrets.

 

"Ultimately, I made a decision — entirely on my own — and I have no regrets."

 

Her announcement has been met with messages of support and congratulations.


 I'm 46, Single and Pregnant: This Is My Story


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Anonymous

3 months ago

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

I never knew she was divorced. I also thought that not having a child this morning would be bad for my future. Single ladies do not necessarily need to wait for a man to have a baby. Just do it and raise your child alone if you can. Thanks to medical science.

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The natural process can never die and always will be accessible. She should have just gone to nick cannon, saved herself a couple of thousand dollars, and gotten you the attention you craved.

Anonymous

3 months ago

As a woman, I would never want NIck as the father of my child. Sperm donation allows you to have background info on the man whose sperm you are using to get pregnant. If I can get healthy sperm from a man of any race I choose with strong DNA traits, including intelligence, why would I settle for just anybody's sperm, especially a black useless, cheating man like Nick? She was being intentional with her decision.

Anonymous

3 months ago

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

If you support this nonsense, this woman did, you do not get a sense.


U don't need a man, but you need sperm. Which comes from a man's body. Delusional women all over the place

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

Well, no news here! If you are a strong, educated, opinionated, too exposed, and assertive woman, these liberal traits don't work well with MARRIAGE, a conservative institution. Nothing wrong with those traits if they work for you, though. However, if marriage and raising a family are important, you MUST accept the rules of engagement and submit to your husband as the head of the household. Wise women know how to run it.


Otherwise, please go ahead and have your IVF in peace and raise your kids alone. Two Captains can't paddle the same boat except you marry a simp that you control, use his sperm for your kids, probably feeds him, cheats on him, and divorce him when you're done. It's a choice you make at the end of the day, for you can't eat your cake and have it both ways.

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Anonymous

3 months ago

Your head dey there. Women want to eat their cake and have it without any repercussions or regard for taking responsibility for their actions. When a woman writes an epistle like this, she knows they are trying to hide their shortcomings and avoid responsibility for their actions. Isha Sesay did it. When a woman writes." please don't judge me," you know they are trying to avoid responsibility for their actions.


The funny thing is that. They hold men to standards they cannot control themselves accountable to. They even push the guilt and blame on men. For example, Reread Isha's post subtly made it seem. she is deciding to have a baby alone because the person she dated wasn't responsible. Yet, there was another man she had dated, the (irresponsible) one to whom she could have agreed to have an IVF baby. They don't like the truth.

Anonymous

3 months ago

I am all those things you listed above and happily married to a man who feeds our children and me. Marriage and those qualities are not mutually exclusive. Your joy and freedom begin when you realize that a 3rd leg confers no advantage. A good head on your shoulders gives you all the benefits.

Anonymous

3 months ago

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

This scares me—having a child without a husband by my side. Everyone keeps telling me to go ahead, but how do I forgive myself for bringing in a child without having a personal relationship with the father? I am so close to my father. I cannot imagine this. A close male friend even wants me to carry his child without wanting to get married. I had to end things with him. How do I even do that? God help me

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Anonymous

3 months ago

Do not allow people to push you to do what your spirit has warned against. You can always adopt. I know people who had kids out of wedlock, and to be honest, the children didn't give them peace. It is like trying your luck. Sometimes we Africans cannot shoulder the burdens of life. That's the reason we do not mind using a lie to make ourselves feel happy. Many white people choose not to have kids. Some tried, but it never worked, but you don't see them marrying other people's husbands to be wives or having kids by force. You will even see them adopting black kids. So many people have husbands but can't have kids, so what will they do?


Adoption is always there if you wish and if you decide to have a baby, remember that whatever consequences come with it will be borne by you alone. If it is negative, it will affect other family members too. I know two ladies who never got married. They had the choice of 2and wives, but they said No, it is hard but ask yourself if I will be alive in 60 to 70 years. Life is Vanity. Please do not kill yourself for anything when I see my grandparent's wedding pictures, clothes, wedding gifts that were properly preserved, etc. I shake my head because they have left everything now.


Have it in mind kids will not stop you from craving some other things that will also bother you so much. Those that learn to be content in life are the most blessed. Above all, cry to your maker to help you decide. The answer will come when you least expect if you eventually do not have kids, never cry about it. Join missionary groups and go with them to make life easy for many. Many had kids and threw them away, and some never still got the fulfillment they thought kids would bring. Life generally is Vanity.

Do not think too much about what your future child will think if they come from IVF. This life is all scripted you know? If the created scripted your life to have a child from IVF and your child should come from IVF, trust me there is nothing you can do. You can fight it but in the end everything will still lead to IVF. So at the right time, you will be ready for it.

Anonymous

3 months ago

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

The journey of life is not the same for everybody. Some people get it right , others dont.. Doesn't mean they are not smart.Chose your journey.Its called destiny.Congratulation dear sis❤️

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Words on marble 👏

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

I see the men are pained 😂😂😂.... Why is it hard for Nigerian men to just leave a woman be, she wants to have a baby for herself by choice, probably to avoid custody drama.. she has tried marriage and it didn’t workout, neither did she get a child from it... Make she force man marry her? Nawa oo

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No one is pained, except you. Her decision has nothing to do with men. She did the right thing best for her.

Anonymous

3 months ago

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

Congratulations Ishay ❤️❤️❤️ even though I was in a marriage I received no emotional support from my then husband and now I continue to raise my son alone how different is that from yours! You've taken the right decision girl no one should fault you for it.

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Anonymous

3 months ago

❤️❤️❤️ same here I couldn't remember any support I got when I was pregnant with my twins from their Dad, marriage doesn't guarantee anything, please have your child much love.

Anonymous

3 months ago

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

You will never regret it. Congratulations!!! So much to look forward to. I'm glad for you. Those little arms round you. Heaven. ❤️


Sitting beside my mother in the hospital when she had a stroke for the second time made me appreciate the importance of having a child—a man helping to change my mother's diapers and clean her up. As a Christian, my mindset changed that day forever. Every woman who wants a child should have one regardless of society's standards. Old age is not kind to the childless. Your Pastor won't be there to support you either.

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

If she was Nigerian now we go de curse her say she de select husband when she was younger. Sometimes people are just unlucky with the opposite sex. That doesn't mean they are picky. You dint expect them to agree to a bad match just so they can say they are married with kids. The time of enduring in marriage has passed. Depression is real .

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And who told you she is happy now. Let us pray she give birth peacefully.

nawaaaa 😂😂😂😂, and who told you those who are married now and with children are happy? You see Africa way of thinking? 😂

and who told you it is all of them that went to get married to give birth that is happy……make everybody carry their own, if she says she is happy then she is happy……Congratulations sweetheart Enjoy beautiful motherhood❤️❤️

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

As it should be, Please, women, don't wait for a man if you are coming towards 40 and would love to have a child of your own. Don't let Islam or Christianity stop you. Either adopt a child or look for a donor. You don't owe anybody any explanation. No person or society is worth it. Live life! It won't make you miss heaven. God loves us all just the way we are.

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Leave Religion out of this. Every child needs a dad and mum, but sometimes it doesn't happen that way, but Religion is right to talk against Fornication and Adultery. You will even see the consequences yourselves. Nobody go tell you, and most women who are single moms never wanted it that way. They suffer the pain, and the children grow up and become problematic about meeting their other parents. It is not something to celebrate, but it does happen and what we need in life is to repent and beg God to give us strength to carry life's crosses and not to push others into it by making it seem adorable.

Stop misquoting God. God loves us but hates sin. An authentic Christian will bear all burdens of life. They will not give way to sin to be happy. Adoption is always there and very noble.

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

Well, I wish you the best. My only concern is that now that you have boldly done it, more independent ladies from this part of the world that were reluctant about it before now will boldly and unashamedly take after you. It will be an everyday thing around us in the next few years.


IVF is costly too. Na person wey get money dey do IVF. And how many single ladies in Nigeria in their mid-30s to mid-40s can afford IFVs without the support of a man? Don't follow this girl's part - if kids and companionship are essential to you. MARRIAGE is still the best route. Please have all your education and career et al., and balance it wisely with the institution of marriage. Otherwise, you will be alone with your cats.

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Anonymous

3 months ago

And so? You men don't want good, independent women, so let the independent women sort themselves out. I wish I had this setup before I got married. My husband, for some reason, has caused me more pain in recent times than joy. So you tell me, apart from a dick, what else is there that another man cannot give?

It's already a common thing. Maybe you don't know anyone who did it.

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

Women, please marry your careers and enjoy all that comes with it. Be the Matriarchy and be on top. Life is sweet.


How on earth is getting pregnant by a sperm donor a sin???! You, people, do so much to subjugate others using Religion! Agreed, two good parents are better than 1; but her life is her choice. No sin is involved.


Congrats Aisha. So happy for you, my good friend

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Anonymous

3 months ago

Nonsense, they keep promoting fornication and baby mama culture and want other women to go the same way. I don't need a man, but you need his sperm, delusional gender that thinks the world is about them. I hope it's not a boy because such boys born to single women will be simps and feminized.

No mind them.

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

Una don come with this una dystopian mentality again. There's a time for everything. Being divorced, single and pregnant with your first child at 46 BY CHOICE is nothing to aspire to.


Congratulations to you Isay Sesay, had always admired you from afar, we all have various routes to ply in life goals and that doesn't make us less than those who has it just as they planned at 16. Wishing you an amazing journey

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 oga did you read it??

Or you are just one judgmental man who is ready to have an opinion, even though you are clueless of her journey! 🙄

except I'm getting you wrong or you didn't read through thoroughly, she never aspired for it...no one does.

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

Any woman that thinks she will be happy with her career or money without any husband or children should rethink her life before getting to that age. Don't let this western agenda independent woman stuff deceive you. Her story should open women's eyes. Glad she too that decision

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and this your Nija runs gals are thinking it’s a good tin to give birth at old age lol .😂😂

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

I repeatedly watch all these beautiful ladies in media, Hollywood, Nollywood, etc., and it's the same story. The ones I thought, surely they will be snapped up, arent. Life is a mystery. The race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong but God that showeth mercy. I wish you success and happiness. It will be challenging. You will be shocked at how much these tiny people demand from you and change your life forever. But it is worth it.

Anonymous

3 months ago

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

A mature mama is always the best mama, a mama with life experience😀💃💃💃💃💃 mama that knows how to weather storms of life, me likey.


Congratulations! what's most important in life is the gift of motherhood. Congratulations once again. A child is always a blessing you will never regret.

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

Stay strong dear,it might be tough but with the love and joy children bring,you will be able to overcome all other challenges. Congratulations

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

The older you get, the more you realize that people's opinions on your life's choices are irrelevant. Do what makes you happy—my hard reality.

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

"I never thought I'd be 46, divorced, single, and having a baby". Na this kind news CNN de like. Female freedom


Isha baby, Congratulations! Life happens. You have tried. Having a baby at 46 may not seem too early, but you will enjoy the baby when you are older and the baby is still full of youth. May God give you a whole long life with good health, and by the time you are 86, your baby will be a bubbly 40 yr old can still look after you with full strength, hurray to You!!!


Congrats, cutie do what ever rocks your boat 🙏

WomenLast activity 3 months ago

It's tough place to be in. I totally understand her decisions. Life is tough as a single mom but I wish her best of lucks. Congratulations

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