"I Grew Up Having To Defend My Profession" - US-based Nigerian Painter Says Her Partner Is Ashamed To Tell His Parents She Is An Artist.

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"I Grew Up Having To Defend My Profession" - US-based Nigerian Painter Says Her Partner Is Ashamed To Tell His Parents She Is An Artist.

A Nigerian lady based in New York, Uzo Njoku, has said she wouldn't marry a man who is ashamed to tell people that she is an artist.

The visual artist, who moved to America when she was seven, stated this on Saturday, January 14, 2023, after her partner said he would introduce her to his parents as an 'entrepreneur.' 

"This guy was talking about introducing me to his parents. I asked what you would tell them my occupation is. He said an entrepreneur. I asked why not an artist, and he told me to be serious," she tweeted. 

"Like, I get how close-minded some people are, but there is no way you can be my partner if you're ashamed to tell people I'm an artist." 


"I Grew Up Having To Defend My Profession" - US-based Nigerian Painter Says Her Partner Is Ashamed To Tell His Parents She Is An Artist."I Grew Up Having To Defend My Profession" - US-based Nigerian Painter Says Her Partner Is Ashamed To Tell His Parents She Is An Artist."I Grew Up Having To Defend My Profession" - US-based Nigerian Painter Says Her Partner Is Ashamed To Tell His Parents She Is An Artist.

"I Grew Up Having To Defend My Profession" - US-based Nigerian Painter Says Her Partner Is Ashamed To Tell His Parents She Is An Artist.

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Anonymous

21 days ago

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 21 days ago

We women of these days don’t know what compromise means, somethings you talk about it, not always backing out as if the next person will be perfect. Many of us both men and women have missed a great opportunity to be with very good people, but we just don’t like how they sleep 😂😂😂 blessings 🙌🏽🙌🏽

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are you sure you understood her write up?if he doesn't have a problem with her Carrer.why not say it in clear terms and if there is a problem because of this in future .am sure you will still run out and ask her why she went along with the ldea.we no dey ever stick to a side .na wahhh🥺

and I don’t know how the compromising thing will end, why not tell the truth about who your significant partner is? Can’t the man compromise with the true identity of who he chose to so end the rest of his life with?

Anonymous

21 days ago

like I have earlier said, somethings are to be talked about very well. The man have no problem with it, which means that parents will understand with time. Make una dey take this intolerance easy oo 🙌🏽🙌🏽

and what was supposed to be the compromise here? She should have lied to his parents to keep things going? Is that what your bible teaches?

Anonymous

21 days ago

my bibel teaches me to put important things to prayer 🤲🏾 my dear and to talk about things that matters with my partner, not backing out at every given opportunity.. the man in question have no problem with it which is a positive thing..What happens to patience these days?? Coming to social media to narrate a private matter won’t end well.. blessings to you

Is she not an entrepreneur? The guy loves her as an artist but his parents may possibly have one or two issues with that, so don't she just apply wisdom. You think there are husbands or wives outside waiting to be taken in split second? You all shouldn't worry, you all think you'll be Young forever keep deceiving yourselves.

Anonymous

21 days ago

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 21 days ago

Uzo, you did the right thing. If he can't openly call you an artist to his parents then he should marry an artist. A man who deserves you should be proud of you and be thrilled about your career. For those mocking her with going on to become single or visiting Shiloh, No one should be scared into marrying who they shouldn't settle for.

At least, when she gets to Shiloh, she will pray for a man that will love her art work. Again, when did praying at Shiloh for husband become a bad thing? Suddenly, it has become what to shame women for. Men go to Shiloh to ask for cars, jobs, houses and secretly, for wives. But it's a shameful thing for a woman to ask for a husband at Shiloh. Dear boys, and girls, be very choosy of who you marry, if he doesn't tick your sensible and valid list, don't marry him out of fear of being single. Singleness isn't a bad thing.

A happy single is by far better than a sad Mrs or Mr. If it gets to going to Shiloh to ask your Daddy God, go there with your full chest and ask your father. I doubt a husband borne out of God's response to your Shiloh prayers will be a bad idea. Imagine shaming someone just because she wants to choose a man that will be right for her and her career. I see those advising her to give in and then work on the man. What???? Work on the man to accept that her career is worth it? Really? Those saying it's no big deal? Women do better for yourselves!

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an entrepreneur is it not someone who owns her own business? Why wouldn't she just keep calm, after all she is doing her own business. Sometimes some of you misses something bcus your ego, what are you defending?

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 21 days ago

Lol in Nigeria, once you are not in the medical field, a lawyer, offering financial services or an engineer. It seems as tho the person is just wasting his or her time. It’s funny how been a designer or artist is been down graded!

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Anonymous

21 days ago

I'm a ghostwriter. But when I visited my fiancee's parents and they inquired about my occupation. I knew they were old people. When I said writer, the confusion on their faces said it all.. So, I said journalist. I report things and put into writing... End of discussion.. How is that a problem? It is quite alarming how it is easy to leave the people we claim to love these days. The boy dodged a bullet..

You know it is just funny how so many people are so ignorant about what it is especially to be a visual artist in Nigeria as at now. In fact they earn much more than most people in the finance sector and others. Especially when the artist involved has a good representation by a reputable gallery. Even for the average one….they earn up to N8 to N15 million annually. I think it’s high time parents are educated about stuffs.

even studying pharmacy is a waste of time and intellect; they end up being at par with ‘aunty chemist and supermarket’ down the street, selling bread and viju milk.

hmmm certified pharmacist? Oga when you see them you know the difference. And drug retailing is not the only branch of pharmacy. Infant most certified pharmacists don't go into retailing. Please Before you respond to this comment do research, I don't like unnecessary arguments.

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 21 days ago

In a real-life category, an artist is also an entrepreneur. People should stop chasing your potential suitors away just because of minor things you can discuss. If you really want a partner, you need to be ready to talk, learn and overlook unnecessary things like this.

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Anonymous

21 days ago

a woman must turn everything into a situation.. Reverse the case.. The man won't even care nor even read double meaning to the word entrepreneur.. Which means a business person.. She think that make her woke because she believes her potential partner is not suppose to have shortcomings..

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 21 days ago

Some of you are very shallow sha and it shows. Imagine being a world-class seasoned fashion designer, makeup artist or stylist then someone wants to introduce you to their parents as an “entrepreneur “. Like after years of hard work, you’ll sit and accept it. Are the parents 4 years old? Won’t they want to know more?

No be everybody be entrepreneur? The guy repairing phone in Ikeja village is an entrepreneur too. After putting your blood, sweat and tears into your craft then someone isn’t even proud to say what you do. Dfkm abeg. If you accept less then fine but stop gaslighting her. Should she break up? Not yet.

But they need to have a conversation about it, but if he is adamant then she needs to move on. Probably he is egoistic and doesn’t like the idea of her outshining him. Lord knows if I was dating an artist the whole world will know! You’d think I’m the artist In the relationship 😂

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 21 days ago

First of all, she didn't do well by quitting and also, her guy telling her to be serious says alot about her career cos what if she's already a successful and famous artist, would he have treated her this way? If he only wanted to avoid plenty stories by using the word "entrepreneur" it's different, but he doesn't see anything good in what she does and that's a bad way to let her know that. I feel they lack true communication.

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 21 days ago

I’m not sure she loves this guy in question. There are more critical things to pay attention to than how you should be introduced. And I think you already have a problem in the first place that’s y you are asking how he’s going to introduce you. You don’t have to defend or prove to people what you do, all you need is to correct when necessary. You are giving yourself so much headache I would say.

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 21 days ago

As an artist, you probably self employed..so enterpreneur aint farfetched....like how those days those tailors carrying a sewing machine didn't like ppl calling them "dwa dwa". You call him a fashion designer, fashion artist or even tailor and he will smile. I'm sure you guys can work things out..but I sense the love you have for him ain't strong wnough..so yeah, please look for another guy.

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 21 days ago

Most of the ppl saying , she should leave the guy cos he said she’s an entrepreneur , would never do the same , I realized ppl come here to give the worst advices but would ever take that advice if they were in a similar situation!!! I pity ppl who actually come here for advice !!!! 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 22 days ago

Art is passion, and doing it is doing what we love. He should be proud of her and what she does for a living.

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 22 days ago

Whenever I see people say someone that makes me happy, I wonder what that even means. Find someone you can manage or tolerate cos happiness no dey exist for this life or better put, and it is a periodic emotion. U make yourself happy or at least choose to be happy

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 22 days ago

I am short of words. Although he's not declaring your profession openly, it doesn't mean he didn't love you, but ignorance and lack of exposure, but then as a good husband, how will he support you in your profession when married? This is where I am short of words

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 22 days ago

She's right. We, as humans, are full of flaws. Find someone you can tolerate their faults or even like their flaws. The worst thing you can ever do is to be with someone you can't handle their spots. That's the very worst thing you can do in a relationship.

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 22 days ago

So because of the "profession name," you want to drop a relationship? You are young and beautiful, that's why. In 10 years, if you are still single, you will be okay with being introduced as a pepper seller if that is all. I shake my head.

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 22 days ago

Really? Introducing an artist is embarrassing? There is nothing one will not read in this era. I wish I were the one that would pick a brush and start creating pieces. Let me see how embarrassed I will be.

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 22 days ago

Does the profession put food on the table? If it does, then it's nothing to be ashamed of, but if it doesn't, it's trash.

Anonymous

22 days ago

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 22 days ago

My question for you, my dear, is this, can you take an "Artist" to a typical Naija dad and say he is your true love ?? He'll first ask which "go-slow" he is selling his paintings or how he wants to provide for his precious daughter !! I feel your partner, knowing his closed-minded parents and not wanting them to say what would say something that would insult his sweetheart, decided to say something that would make the introduction go smoothly.

We don't choose our parents, and you can't expect him to throw them in the trash can so YOU can feel better about your career. You have to learn to manage people or situations. Eventually, you can tell them about your passion when they know and love you. After all, an artist is still an entrepreneur. Not like he called you a Doctor.

Dating & RelationshpLast activity 22 days ago

I get why she's upset, but maybe he's ashamed of her profession like she mentioned, or perhaps he wasn't; he knows his parents and probably how they may react and was looking for a better way to inform them about what his partner does for a living.

If you tell someone that your partner is an entrepreneur, the conversation won't end there; they will still probe further, and that's when he will inform them that she's an artist. Some people are always spoiling for a fight, looking for reasons to end their relationship, and then announcing it to the world via social media.

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