Don't Listen To Small Boys Who Say You Must "make It" Before You Look For A Good Woman- Author Joe Abah Talks Marriage Hint To Men.

I don't have issues with a man still building and searching for a woman or a serious relationship, but the issue is that when they make it would they still see this lady as their spec again??... You know money reveals a whole lot of things, most men once they hut that jackpot they automatically start being promiscuous because they have the cash to afford any type of girl they want to.

But most established men that searches for a woman and marries her, respect and love her, because they had lots of choice but still chose you. In summary MOST growing men choose who they can afford at the time they're growing and once they get that money the go for their main main spec and all.. everybody should be building their selves and when they come together as couple they can hit more milestones. Thank you 🚶🚶🚶 ..who stone me ?🙄

There's a lot of sense in Joe Abah's advice. Marriage is a journey; it's difficult to predict where you'll buy fuel, if you'll have flat tyre and other things you may encounter. It's good to be prepared but it's more important to start your journey early.

Some people don’t get what he meant , he is not saying you should go for someone who is not having anything going on , he only said it’s better if you two start building together on whatever you have at hand that can still sustain you to some reasonable degree of convenience. It usually tells in most cases when you are not there when your partner was building his or her wealth , especially men would find it difficult to believe you are genuine.

And such doubt can easily destroy your relationship or marriage at an early stage cuz it enhances bragging at any slightest misunderstanding , and then one party started feeling bad cuz he or she doesn’t know the genesis of the other person growth .

Should I help you loud it sir?😂😂😂... "not under my roof", "how dare you tell me what to do with my own money", "I'd decide who stays and who leaves", "I can do and undo", "do you know how many women are wishing to be in this your position", "you should be grateful your family got a rich inlaw like me", "woman! Don't correct me you're not my mother", "Nobody has the right to tell me the proper time to come back in my own house", " See! I changed my mind and I'm saying i need more children Period,..😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I sincerely believe that growth is best when you meet her at that level where she can contribute significantly into your life. It's not so easy. People are conforming to societal standards instead of transforming their mindset

There are so many good women out there who are willing to build wealth with a man with prospects. You don’t need to wait until you make big money. Sometimes you need a good woman to land your dream wealth.

This isn’t just about men but ladies too. As the firstborn there is a certain financial level I want to attain before marrying. My siblings are my responsibility and if you are not able to put certain structures in place, once you are married you have a whole new responsibility, it will take a super understanding man to see you meeting an urgent need of your family first. Who else can relate👋

My own be say I must make it oh, at least I must be able to afford some kyn things for my wife and children. No be every morning madam go hold me for trouser say make I bring money for soup and school fees. Abeg oh😂

Fact. But that was many years back o.. not now pls men this Advice don't work again o.. men must make money b4 marriage, I sincerely saying nothing bt the truth. If you marry and u no get shishi dem go bleep ur wife tired, listen to me nowadays to keep a woman you need millions in ur bank account, u must have a big house 🏠 you must have a fine car. This Advice works decade ago. Not now and it will never work again. No woman want to marry any man that has no car or has a lavish lifestyle. 🙌

He made very valid points especially with the examples given which also applies to women, categorically the Perfectionist. However, Generally for Men just try and have something going don't be lazy, and marry when you'll feel it's convenient for you. Define your conveniency for yourself not by anyone one or group of people. No Pressure is allowed.

It's true though, and they are always very insecure and picky about the people around them, they feel everyone is a leach and after their money, some ladies finds it difficult to convince them that their intentions are real even after everything they still feel you are faking it, though I still believe they are some that do not get carried away

It’s rare and difficult to find a man who married as a wealthy man to trust the Love his wife has for him tho…..Cuz why would I struggle and you’ll block me when I DM you on my struggle stage to go and make money and look down on me then when I become successful….You’ll start preaching for me to be faithful to you alone….why???

But how many good women want to stay with struggling men, or men who haven't made it, the other day I saw on this same IG where a lady was stating lists of what her man must have, I'm not underestimating the fact that there are no good women who would stay though

A starving home (wife and kids) won't inspire a good man. Have a base. Just as you can't BUILD castle in the air, don't have family on empty and aspirations of promises. You don't want your son and daughter to go through what you went through, do you?

When you are already made. You find it difficult to trust the genuineness of people. And end up having issues over little things. But those you grow together always end up your best partners most times. Not in all cases anyways.

My own husband will make it big before anything, everybody should do what suits them

Very true, most of the time u even find it hard to find who will love u for the right reasons. Then it becomes difficult cos almost women want a man with money for security. You find a woman after ur pocket not ur heart.

Story! If you like go listen to socio medium advice and marry as a broke guy, if you no lucky get good girl that understands, you will die at the age of 42 😂😂😂😂😂

They messed up the whole country 😢 and them no care. Acting like Tinubu is a better demon than Buhari I laugh. A party that destroyed Nigeria , asking for another opportunity wahala Dey oooo.

Abeg no stress person pikin make sure you have something doing, raisin kids aunt child's play because family gats to run 247 not easy at all but marry woman wey get something doing also