A Young Nigerian Widow Shows The Treatment She Was Subjected To After Losing Her Husband At 23.

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Family wickedness. This has nothing to do with tradition like many will erroneously conclude. It is pure wickedness and this widow can make a move and set all these wicked people on the run. She can get justice.

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Some tradition should be scrapped off, some traditions would tell you to remain in the family and keep giving birth for your dead spouse, that means you would be sleeping with family relatives to give birth for your dead spouse. It's trite law that customs as such violates the constitutional rights of a widow. This is inhumane treatment and such family can be sued, we are in a civilized world where there is keen respect for human rights.


All these demons of women subjecting this woman to this kind of treatment, I hope u are ready for your own turn awon oloriburuku.


How this hasn’t been made illegal , not the traditional mourning rights (as Thea traditional practices can be hard to fight) but the complete disposition of widows and children of the wealth of their deceased husbands. There needs to be advocacy around this. It has to stop.


It does not matter how long this has been in practice. Its time we do away with such barbaric and demonic practices. The family that are supposed to provide succour, now add pepper to injury again. Why do we behalf lower than animals? What is not obtainable in animal kingdom, a group of demonic and greed-infested men, turns it into traditional laws to afflict and vent their lust upon widows. Make we dey fear God small nah!!!😢


LOVE is very intentional and conditional…look beyond love before loving one man/woman with a cr@zy culture or family belief. Don’t let any mugu sweet talk you saying it can’t happen. If you don’t do their bid, sha know say you hold God welllll, cos dem go take attack finish you. Plus say e go shock you say in health and in death you go suffer. Tuehhhhh. God forbid! If the question is won’t they marry? Answer is let them marry themselves in their village.

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Anonymous

2 months ago

As a survivor of this nonsense ... I can tell you for a fact that she will be FINE! I was 27 and was left with 4 kids including an 11 month old. No job, No inheritance. I wasn't even a next of kin! No pin was left for me or the kids. (PS my kids are sons) 15yrs has passed and not one single person from his family has asked after me or my kids. The world will hear our story someday but in the meantime....I am staying my anchor in Christ. My rescue story came when I met Christ. Now I am living my best life, rocking the world for Jesus and raising soldiers. I am the bride of a fantastic God! Stay grounded sis...God will make your enemies your footstool like HE's done for me. Just focus.

Legal Aid needs to be made available and to actually work. If this lady has solid legal representation, she can make these bastards pay for this. I saw this video the first time and I couldn't bring myself to watch it but I just had to come back and watch the whole thing because avoiding the impact doesn't eliminate the problem. Please, if anyone has the contact of this lady, can they put me in touch with her? I know of NGO's and other organisations that can help her get legal aid and also put her story out there. This is just really heartbreaking man.

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Happened to a friend. They don't even care about their brother's son. They cane to collect iphone, ATM cards and all condolence money. I have never seen it before. They were so hungry for his belongings and didn't even cry 1 day for him. This was a man that when he was alive any small fight with his wife he'll say "my family is number 1, if I die u will remarry but they will forever be broken". Omo... his sister only cried the day she got to the house. The next day she went to braid hair with the iPhone in hand 😂😂. I have never seen sharks till that day. I weak!

Anonymous

2 months ago

If there’s something I learnt while growing up.. my uncle do tell us to background check of the family your marrying from.. what’s the tradition when someone dies.. if it’s something you can’t do .. don’t bother marrying from there.. we don’t pray to experience such. She’s too young to go through this 😢.


Cutting of a widows hair is Igbo traditional but wickedly taking everything from a widow is not Igbo tradition, please know the difference. Wicked acts are committed by wicked people. Igbo culture and traditions are one of the beautiful aspects of Igbo land that people misconstrued over time. Please know the difference.

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2 months ago

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As a traditionalist myself,I condemn this act,this is part of Igbo culture that we abolished many many years ago,this doesn't show any sign of respect for the dead,this should not be encouraged in any Igbo land!

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2 months ago

and you call yourself a traditionalist at the same time you want to abolish the tradition and culture of our ancestors..... continue onye abolish..... collecting the her husband properties from her is evil and it's has never been our tradition but as for the hair its normal.


you are daft. Your ancestors were not closed to social media but you use it . If everyone sticks to their tradition by now some people would be eating flesh till date. Western people also had tradition they abolished that made it possible for Obama to become president . In africa you defend selfish cruelty and defend it with culture. Anytime una hear culture and tradition una mind just dey do somehow

ancestors??following laws made by dead people😂😂...your ancestors didnt have the knowledge you have now...if u have an old person around listen to them when they talk and I bet most of this traditions would be irrelevant , if I fall sick I know I'm supposed to go to the hospital, but do you realize old people believe is someone that sent them sickness😂 and u are following their rules in this modern era, they made rules that govern them in their time why follow those rules in this era??

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nigerians are not ready for that topic, or maybe some things should just be left the way they are.


anyways the deed has been done, everyone should be careful out there, if you know you are picky when it comes to tradition, then try and find out more about your husband's people before settling down to marital life, that is my advice to you people that are planning to get married

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2 months ago

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The only thing that's bad here is the fact they collected everything from her. It's hers & her children property. But the cutting of hair side....well I can't say much there, since it's not that serious, I mean some of y'all cut your hair for free. Who forced her? It's traditional to cut hair. There is no force. She can bring a barber to do it while the umuadas just sit around to fulfill that part of tradition

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sometimes the shaving of hair takes place after 7 days of mourning, and it doesnt have anything to do with the daughters, just the wive or wives, and other people has traditions that are worse than this, you can't tell me that you've never heard that there is a place where you bury the kings with human heads? and it is not even Igbo land oh? the only wrong i see here is the propertise that was taken from her, that is not in any tradition, it is pure wickedness and every tribe in nigeria practice that act, not just the igbos

yeah, and I think it’s cos of inexperience and family background. Why am saying this is cos I had a classmate in my Uni days and they are from Igbo land and when dia dad died her mum and siblings weren’t forced to go through these, we attended the burial sef and we didn’t see such practice. Also her mum is very rich though she works with IMF,she had mopol escorts with her. That’s y I think they select the kind of people they do these

Anonymous

2 months ago

To answer your question directly, my community doesn't force anyone to cut there hair. We just believe it is tradition and every right thinking person should just do it. However it has its implications which can come in anyway except the deceased knew his wife wouldn't do it why alive because you know most people don't believe in such things. As a core Igbo man I also wish to say that Ndiigbo does not force anyone to do this these days. Disregard how the media paints it. For the taking of everything, that purely wickedness and has nothing to do with tradition. My community will mandate your brother in-laws to give your kids there father's rights immediately if we get a report from the widow. If they waste time, we move in and do it ourself. We have intervened on countless occasions

Anonymous

2 months ago

Tradition demands that the deceased wife & children cut there hair immediately after burial. If it's a woman that died the husband will not cut his hair after the burial but will not cut his hair or beards again, not even shaving nor trimming till after 1year or 6months as a sign of mourning. The first one does it too when he loses any if the parents

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Shaving of hair and mourning the dead are not the issue. Those are the culture that is widespread. The issue is seizing what the man left, a man who has a wife and children. That is family wickedness and has no place in our tradition and cultural relevance. One Love.


to some it’s just a shaving but to me it’s a constant reminder that my hair cut wasn’t for the sake of fashion but of loss. A painful loss. I pray God keeps our men and let us enjoy them wella.

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Same thing that happened to you has happened to many others in the east. Many families do not have any interest in what their brothers left behind when he left a wife and children. That is why I wrote.... It is family wickedness.

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It is a tradition in the whole of Nigeria and even West Africa and the Zulus of South Africa. if you visit just for Xmas then you won't know nah, every single cultural group in this country has traditions that guard their way of life, both during marriage and burial, some abuse theirs and others don't, it doesn't mean they don't exist.


others neglect theirs and sometimes it comes back to haunt them,but one thing i know is don't go against these things, even if you are a Christian, just do your thing and move on. like those people using bible to compare with tradition, it has been there long before the bible was invented,and if you check most African traditions, in nowhere was it said that you should go against the doctrines of the bible, but some Christians won't tell you this, true somethings are to be abolished but if you check most christians, are they really doing the will of God?

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Just like the stupid traditions in the old testament, that means African traditions are not liberating. Africans! liberate yourself and free yourself from these chains of pain and agony. Find true Happiness!

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Igbos. 🥲🥲. I saw a boy of 22 died. They printed postal and elderly people present to bury such a boy. Benin tradition won’t do all dis. Ur age group or those u senior to. Is allowed to bury u. Even at 100 years. Who is older dAn u is not allowed to bury. Na children Supose bury parents or elders not parents or elders bury children

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you're right bro.. Facts 200% right.

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2 months ago

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so cutting your hair for your husband and shaving your armpit was the bad thing they did to you ? You are the people who paint the igbo tribe bad, a woman being stripped of all her husband belonging is what you are attaching your loss of hair to? The hair that have grown back by the next year, please stick to the topic its not the loss of her hair that is her pain because its tradition, the wickedness is stripping her of all her husband left for her and her children and then abandoning her after that with her children to survive in this cold world alone with no protector, there is a lot of disparity between what you are crying about and what she is going through, smh 🤦‍♂️

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First of this song has been through so much pain .secondly who in this present time seats down for their hair to get cut if it’s not what they want,like ,as in to prove what exactly ? thirdly ladies before love carry you go where you know no find out from your partner and by yourself the kind of family he comes from ,investigate ,his tradition both alive and dead and above all be sure that his family genuinely approves your Union like they love you to the moon and back ,not our wife in front and behind they hate you with passion .


it would save you A lot of stress should in case .but whereby you ignore all this and still want to forge ahead atleast have your money,be at peace with your own family and have good connect because I seriously hate hearing widows say they took everything away from me ,like how ?if you had your own account source of income working for you even befor the person dies and you won’t keep those elders instigating nonsense somewhere until your done with laying your husband to rest then you release them .ha na wa o .sister be strong that’s all I can say

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Anonymous

2 months ago

s educated as I am, I haven’t been out to say what my dad’s family did to me when he passed. This comment is a bit insensitive to widows. I mean the people fighting me were power houses themselves. This is my own family, this comment isn’t right at all. I went though worse than this video.

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This is painful.

I hope men learn to carry their wives along and not keep them in the dark. Make them your next of kin should incase anything happen. Women do the same too.


Imagine taking everything that belongs to this woman’s husband just because he is no more. God would judge them

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any woman unfortunate to marry a man who doesn't carry her along, should carry herself along and plan her life and her kid's life. Some of these men are too blind to see and too proud to learn, leave them in their ignorance and build your life alone. We were all born alone so don't depend on a man who sees you as a stranger. Treat him like a stranger he treats you.

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In as much as I’m not in position to judge but Women haba! Make una Dey look ground born!!!!We wish no one evil, at the same time think of it. 3 children within a space of 3yrs??? Now he’s gone the all the responsibility is on you. 1 sef no easy. Talk more 3. May God be with her.


On to serious matter. Most people don't say it, but the maltreatment from in-laws is the reason most women worry about marrying an Igbo man especially here in Nigeria - if you japa you may avoid it. The traditions do no favour widows and most family(in-laws) are extremely wicked! They forcefully and indirectly take/claim properties meant for the widow and children. This "tradition" as they chose to call it is not just wickedness but has a lot to do with the Igbos not respecting the girl-child. God bless Wike for the bills signed in Rivers State to protect widows and properties left by their late husbands. God's wrath will continue to be upon in-laws that steal the properties of widows. AMEN!

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