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NigeriaLast activity 16 days ago

In my experience, it's slightly easier for Nigerian men than women in the diaspora. I think this largely stems from 4 things:

  1. Nigerian men tend to be a bit more open to dating outside their culture (not as available as their black counterparts, however)

  2. The Nigerian diaspora is among many Western countries' most educated immigrant groups. Unfortunately, this affects Nigerian women as many have advanced degrees. Women across all cultures usually "marry up," but where does a female Nigerian lawyer go if not another lawyer or doctor? It's a terrible situation, but most men have a complex about themselves not being the breadwinner, even as that idea is more outdated. Her pool is smaller than the man who can "marry down." By being more likely to be equal or hold more power in a relationship, Nigerian women become victims of being black in the western world, the woman in the working world, and educated in the world.

  3. Nigerian women, on average, stay calm. Some see this as being a prude and picky. I've generally seen this as focused and having standards. They typically pick this up from their families to be educated and a good wives/mother and not out in the streets. This, as a result, usually have them dating fewer men than the average woman. I will say in my experience, while I see many Nigerian women waiting longer for marriage in the diaspora, I rarely see one that doesn't end up being married compared to their black counterparts.

  4. I don't mean this sound like a brag, but Nigerian men are sought after once out in the western nations, especially if you are in STEM fields and doing well. This kind of forces their women counterparts to compete for their attention with other races and ethnicities in a way that isn't the same in Nigeria. Combine that with Nigerian men's tendency to be more open to dating outside of being Igbo or Yoruba, and it gets harder for those respective women.

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Great points all around, and the Only addition is that women usually marry across and up.

They prefer to marry up, but they will be okay with marrying across. Marrying down is a no-no.

NigeriaLast activity 14 hours ago

Some Nigerian women date other races after they have exhausted their options in finding an excellent Nigerian man.

Is It Accurate That Nigerian Men Dodge Dating Nigerian Women Abroad, And Dating Becomes More Difficult For Our Women After They Leave Nigeria?

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Definitely not all. Some truly fall in luv.

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Anonymous

one month ago

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Why are some women ALWAYS hard on their fellow women. Men do stuff n still support each other. What's wrong with us SISTERS.

Anonymous

one month ago

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Women are in trouble in this part the world. Anything we so is a no no. Wow! I didn't know God created us to slaves o. Like women can't even breathe 😂😂😂😂😂 even married women are posting pictures, does that mean she's craving for attention?

Dating & RelationshpLast activity one month ago

Men with a lower testosterone level whose DNA used to be a subject of natural selection (or the ones who were brainwashed) are very much into feministic equality. They expect a woman to contribute 50/50 regardless of how much she makes. You can see some extreme cases all over the internet:

Do Successful Nigerian Men Have A Concern About Dating A Woman That Makes More Money Than He Does? Why Or Why Not?

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This type of man would go along with anything if the 50/50 rule is in place as they see a family as a burden. Unavailable, tired, overworked, stressed female, and infrequent sex is accepted (resources are more important than human connection/intimacy). This scenario is a contributor to 50% of divorce rates today. Nobody has the upper hand in any function as both are trying to do it all. The pecking order needs to be clarified, which sooner or later leads to disrespect.

Here is a good representation of feminism which ironically depicts a low libido female who lost her natural ability to cooperate and harmonize (while calling it “independence”). You thought a womb couldn’t be independent of the rest of the body? According to feminists, it can, and it also can show you a finger.

Do Successful Nigerian Men Have A Concern About Dating A Woman That Makes More Money Than He Does? Why Or Why Not?

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5 months ago

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